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November 2009 
Blame Game
Posted on Sep 14th, 2009
by 
martha
martha
"Blame" means it's your "fault."
A "fault" is something wrong with you.
This bad thing has occurred because of something wrong with you.
How does assigning blame help to amend the problem?
A thought I heard today (or was it yesterday), maybe from Brian Johnson's philosopher's notes:
People need to stop the blame game. Why put all that energy into blaming someone? --Even if that person is yourself.
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Love the way that last sentence peeked in there: Even if that person is yourself. I wonder…if we stopped blaming ourselves entirely, would we then stop blaming the other person? But to just stop. When the mind starts to say “fault! fault! fault!” to simply give a huge inner hug and say “it's ok. we're all just human. it's ok.”
especially when that person is yourself? Like Kathy, I believe that the end of blame begins with ending self-blame.
I don't blame anyone for what happens to me. And I don't beat myself up. Things happen. Shit happens.
I take the lesson, deal with it, move on or try to improve the situation or accept it. Lots of choices. Blaming is a useless exercise, a dead end. I make a conscious effort to be responsible and do no harm. It takes practice, practice, practice. I keep practicing…….
http://lojongmindtraining.com/Commentary.aspx?author=3&proverb=12
this is a nice read